Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Genetically Predisposed Attraction

Being a graduate of Psychology I have been exposed to certain theories about human relationships and interactions, most of them sometimes are quite illogical but has been proven theoretically or through a series of carefully laid down experiments.


Sometimes I think that the complexity of the mind can be really predicted, but it has never been proven. Yet.


Last week, in the middle of a really lazy and humid afternoon I decided to stay home instead of taking chances on getting a tan outside and suffering heatstroke at the same time. So I turned to my ever reliable home exercise, channel surfing. (What?)


I was doing my normal checking, seeing what's on and skipping those channels with commercials, keeping in mind what intrigued me or stopped on certain familiar channels until I bumped in to a very interesting clip... a good looking guy giving advice to women how to act during dates. TOTALLY WEIRD!


And his Tip No. 1. Don't be weird. Yeah I get that. But why? Why would he act like he's such a know-it-all when it comes to dating and relationships? I don't think anyone's an expert on that and by the way I think he was using reality therapy, shocking the women with realizations and analyzing them to the point of being hypercritical. These are women with feelings HELLO?! Yeah I guess they didn't have serious and steady relationships to brag about, but what's up with the treatment? ANYWAY, it got my attention alright, shame on mass media, affecting my inner diva. After the commercial clip, I just realized the title of the program was Tough Love. Oh. Err. Yeah. Right.


I wasn't able to move on immediately, as much as I wanted to so although the remote on my hand was screaming for my earnest touch something egged me not to react to that alluring impulse. Little did I know I am in for more surprise.


The Lifestyle Network surely has a lot of interesting and mind boggling things set to entice their viewers in a way that I would be glued to the tube because of National Geographics documenting their recent analysis on the mating rituals of humpback whales or something to that effect (kidding!). So there it was, with bold letters written across my TV screen shouting the words I definitely am not ready to see.


The Truth About the Sexes.


Wow! - Definitely summed up my reaction, although I still am unable to figure out if it's in a good or bad way, so there I sit, stuck in a room thinking that I was just in for a great laugh coz here's another show that just might struck a nerve of feminists or chauvinists and typecasting females to this so and so. It is interesting in my own twisted little mind, but my assumption was proven wrong rather immediately as the show progressed.


The show more or less dealt with the aspects of attraction between men and women, how we choose possible partners and such things. It tried to explain why men choose these ladies, merely out of statistics and impulse and basing the reactions on studies done before.


What intrigued me most was that men doesn't really go for women who have huge breasts but rather with women who has the waist to hip ratio of 0.7. Symmetry is more of the term I think, and it's supposed to correlate with the woman's fertility aspect, hmm. I think that just made me search for the nearest tape measure and see what my ratio is but I shunned the idea. The thought made my radical being puke, so now I am being obnoxious.


Next is when they made the ladies smell certain shirts and they were asked to define which wreaked the most in their point of view, almost all the women chose the shirt of their brothers. Explanation? Really simple, your own genes are telling you that you must not be attracted to your sibling, it's just SO NOT RIGHT.


It's a two part special episode I think, I wasn't able to catch the second one though coz I totally forgot when it's suppose to air but I must admit that it's really interesting. It's cool to learn certain things. Good thing my memory still serves me well so there would be some fact I can share. Amazing what our genes hold.


We even have that genetically predisposed attraction to blame for, if things don't turn out right! Haha!

QuizBox Personality Test

I took this test out of sheer boredom and curiosity. Personality tests are really something that is always interesting and somewhat unignorable for people like me. So, here are my results:


Your view on yourself:


You are intelligent, honest and sweet. You are friendly to everybody and don't like conflict. Because you're so cheerful and fun, people are naturally attracted to you and like to talk to you.


== Wow! For real?! Yeah I guess people look at me that way and sometimes they would even comment something to that effect.


The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:


You are a true romantic. When you are in love, you will do anything and everything to keep your love true.


== This is SO true! Enough said.


Your readiness to commit to a relationship:


You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you meet that person.


== IF I meet him, that is.


The seriousness of your love:


You like to flirt and behave seductively. The opposite sex finds this very attractive, and that's why you'll always have admirers hanging off your arms. But how serious are you about choosing someone to be in a relationship with?


== Please refer to the 2nd interpretation, I don't think they match. Oh well. I guess I am a bit mixed up and you will have to figure me out first before I pay attention to you. =)


Your views on education


Education is very important in life. You want to study hard and learn as much as you can.


== Very well said. I really do, which reminds me that I still have to learn a lot of things.


The right job for you:


You have plenty of dream jobs but have little chance of doing any of them if you don't focus on something in particular. You need to choose something and go for it to be happy and achieve success.


== Hmm... I think I would have to reflect more on that dream job I should focus on. Really tough decision.


How do you view success:


You are afraid of failure and scared to have a go at the career you would like to have in case you don't succeed. Don't give up when you haven't even started! Be courageous.


== I AM. Am I?


What are you most afraid of:


You are afraid of things that you cannot control. Sometimes you show your anger to cover up how you feel.


== This definitely hit a spot. Yeah. Err... probably. The most unpredictable and uncontrollable things scare me, just like a rollercoaster where I don't have control over or falling.


Who is your true self:


You like privacy very much because you enjoy spending time with your own thoughts. You like to disappear when you cannot find solutions to your own problems, but you would feel better if you learned to share your thoughts with a person you trust.


== Now this I think is very contradicting. First statement is so NOT me, coz I do publish my thoughts on a lot of things and I enjoy talking to a lot of people specially to my best friends and I do trust them. But the second statement about disappearing when I cannot find a solution to my problem, I think I have wished I could just disappear a lot of times!


If you guys wanna try this test here's the link, not everything of course is to be taken seriously after all we are complicated beings, enjoy!


http://www.quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

My Vote of Confidence Goes to...

I am part of the Confused Republic of the Philippines every election day and the sad fact is, this is not the first time I am voting. I have been very idealistic in choosing my candidates during my first time, I have even bothered to research on their track records know everything and what nots, I was very confident with the people I voted for, until I was surprised with the results.. apparently, people are not as optimistic and idealistic as I am and never bothered to do what I have done.

My family was a classic example of the ordinary Filipino voters, they don't prepare their list, they don't do research, they prefer to do the choosing on the day or the minute they get the ballots they would have to cast, and most often have done the eeny-meeny-miny-moe thing and I HATED that fact, it's like giving up your principle to chance, but I went with the flow not minding the importance of my one vote.

Now I am a Mom to a 1 year old boy and I would want things to CHANGE and I realized I'm not gonna expect other people to do the change for me, I have to do it MYSELF.

I have never been amused with politics and to tell you frankly I am not very confident with our election process and has been a skeptic since I was fresh out of the university. I didn't bother to listen to the ongoing debates, political announcements, track records comparison and other stuff because I already know who I am voting for.

My vote of full confidence goes to DICK GORDON.

Yes, that strong willed man who you may have seen in several national emergencies participating in the relief operations even when he was not yet running for the presidency or planning to I suppose.

That person who have clearly transformed the place that gave a negative label to the Philippines (and to the Filipinos as well) during the considerable dark times when our country is still has a U. S. base.

That same person who helped liven the economy of the Philippines by effectively advertising the beauty of our native country to foreigners and to ourselves. I would have to admit that the only time I was able to learn about the wonderful places we can visit in the Philippines was when the Department of Tourism plastered pictures of places all over Manila and to the world wide web as well.

I have seen him all over the news so many times even before he ran for the national elections.

My family was more of a whatever-the-majority-votes-I'm-with-it sort of people, but sometimes the majority means all the FOOLS are on one side. Taking into consideration how the surveys affect the thinking of a simple minded JUAN DELA CRUZ.

I am NEVER gonna vote for someone who have been found guilty of plunder before and was thrown out of his own office because of it, that would be REALLY INSANE not to mention STUPID!

I am NEVER gonna vote for someone who was just pushed to run for office because people says he's a good person and it's in his lineage to be in such a position. I mean WE certainly CAN do BETTER than THAT!

I believe in the credo of Burke:

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing."

He's a good man, but has he done ANYTHING to triumph over something?

SHEESH!

I am NEVER gonna vote for someone who is exaggerating his life story just to appeal to the masses who always look for melodrama, if I wanted that, I would have just lived in a TELENOVELA!

I am NEVER gonna vote for a religious leader for office, that's just the most ridiculous thing!

AND

I am never gonna vote for someone endorsed by the current PRESIDENT.

I wanted CHANGE not a SUBSTITUTE!